OT: Second baby Shower??

I was always under the impression that having 2 or more showers is totally tacky unless, your children were over 5 or more years apart. The past 2 weeks several people have asked me if I was going to have another one (my daughter just turned 2 in December.) Some even suggested a "Baby Sprinkle" instead of a full shower because every baby needs to be celebrated. What are your opinions on this?


As I think about this more, I would feel very uncomfortable even asking a family member to throw me another shower/ sprinkle.

Well in my family it is usually a once and done thing too - but heck - every baby deserves to be celebrated! No one says that there has to be gifts involved. I wouldn't ask anyone to throw a shower, if they do great! If not, and you are having a baby of the opposite gender maybe you have a "welcome baby" party after they make their grand appearance.

Congrats!

I wouldn't ask your family to throw you one, but if they offered I would accept.  My kids are 2 years apart, and I did feel kind of funny about the whole idea.   I really didn't need any major items.  When the invitations got sent out a little insert was put in saying where I was registered and that I would also appreciate various size diapers, wipes, and desitin.  

The people that I thought would be offended at the thought of a second baby shower didn't get an invitation.  I didn't want anyone to feel obligated to come or bring a present. 

I agree that every baby needs to be celebrated.   In every baby book I've seen there is a page for about the baby shower.   Wouldn't it stink to have to tell your child they didn't have one because they were the second baby.

i thought the same way... my son will be 17 months when shes born... and i didnt need anything ( execpt cloths) ... i also think every baby needs to be celebrated... so i am having a welcome home party after she comes home... plus that will help control unwanted visitors those first few days

I see nothing wrong with having another one!
A baby shower is a great way to help out with the stuff you really need.
Like those good ol diapers lol

I'm pregnant with my 3rd baby and is finally having my first baby shower ever!!!

I agree with the others. Every birth is a cause for celebration. If someone wants to throw a shower by all means accept. I too think about the baby books and photo albums this, my first child will have and how bad it will feel to the next one to have had no such celebration. Even if it is a welcome home baby party or something like that.

Congrats (again) on the new baby.

My opinion is totally different than the others, maybe because I don't have kids yet and I've been to soooo many baby showers.

Honestly I think you should only have a shower for the 1st child.  This is when you get all the items etc.  After that, it's a lot to ask for people to supply you again.

As a regular attendee, I feel that showers are not just to celebrate the baby, but prepare the family for the baby's arrival.  This is why gifts are brought.  I like the idea of a welcome home party for the baby though, then people can bring gifts if they want.

For people with some time between babies, I have been to what they call a diaper shower.  This way people can bring diapers and other items that they wish to purchase if they want to. 

Not trying to offend, but had to give another perspective on this. 
Also, I don't think you should ask someone to throw the shower for you.  If someone sees a need, they will throw one for you.

Hope this different perspective helps.

~Beck

My side of the family is so against it and it just makes me sad. I am constantly hearing little criticisms and comments from my mother about the embarassment it would cause her if I invited our family members to a "another shower". Meanwhile, I have 3 other cousins who are all due within the same month of my who are also having showers, one of them is for a second baby too. She doesn't comment on that, but she's certainly got an oppinion on me. This is a pretty sore subject for me because I find it really hurtful that all the blame of "family embarassment" is put on my shoulders. I don't believe the old-fashioned way they my Mom does, but after so many comments, those feelings do start to work into your brain and you start worrying about it.

Sooooo, after that long story, I've decided to throw this baby a party myself as I too think that all babies deserve a celebration! I want this baby to have those moments in his memory book just like his brother has!!! I'm having a scrapbooking party! I'm doing this to save my mother the "embarassment" of having people buy me gifts. All they will need to do now is come spend the afternoon with me and help me create the babies first scrapbook over some good conversation and food. That way, I'll get the pictures and memories I want for the new baby, and my mother will hopefully get off my back about it! LoL I'm sure she will still find some way to be embarassed about it, but I feel like I've done my part too.

And if people happen to bring the new baby gifts to the party, I will gladly accept! Even though this is a multiple baby for us, does not mean there are not things we need or would love to have that we can't afford on our own! (My Mom has already given me multiple lectures on putting wording in the invites so people know NOT to bring gifts or expect to have to spend any money at all! Now she's afraid people will think it's a scrapbooking party with a consultant they are obligated to buy from!!! I just can't win!!!)

Thanks everyone for your insight! I love the whole idea of a scrapbooking party, diaper party or a Welcome Home get-together! But you are right, you can't win in a situation like this.  People will always have an opinion no matter what a person decides.
I am a VERY shy person and as for me asking a family member to throw me a party, that would never happen...LOL!

Thanks again!
Sarah

I had like 4 baby showers for my first baby (my son) and loved it. With my second baby (girl), I had my sister in laws offer to do a baby shower, since it was the opposite sex. I basically got a lot of clothes and girly stuff at the shower, but we already had a crib, stroller, swing, etc for the baby. I was fine with it because it was the opposite sex, but if I was having another boy, I would've said no to another baby shower. My sister thought it was tacky that I was having another baby shower with my 2nd baby, but I didn't care cuz I needed girl stuff for the baby!

I think if someone offers to give you one, go for it, but if not, then you still will get gifts when people come to visit.